These past couple of months have been a bit crazy. Our family has gone through a lot of little changes, and most of them for the better. Our 6 year old is now on medication (something I was extremely against) but can I just tell you that it was the best decision we ever made as a family. She is doing so well. She can focus, she pays attention to detail, and we now know that we have a budding little artist. She is so talented, and I almost kick myself everyday for not starting her on the medication sooner. Her grades are going up in school, and that was what we wanted the most. She is starting to make friends, and that is something she didn’t have before. She was combative through everything which made it difficult for others to get along with her. However, just yesterday, one of her classmates came up to me and said “Ms. Shannon, I like your daughter now. She is so nice!”
Our first indication that something was a little off was when she started EAK (early admission kindergarten). This was a precursor to Kindergarten, a way for children to get a head start on school. Well, everyday we would pick her up from school it would be something new. “Haylie was up on the tables today, Haylie was talking non stop when she was suppose to be quiet, Haylie isn’t finishing her work like the rest of the children.” But what really got to me was the fact that we knew she was smarter than that. She didn’t really act all that bad at home, or maybe we had just gotten used to it. Everything changed once she got to Kindergarten. It went from a sweet teacher to a teacher who told us every little detail of what Haylie was doing. And it just kept getting worse. But I didn’t want to give up, she’s too young to put her on medication. So, we kept on with her counseling and said “She’s only 5, give her a break!” Well, after saying that over and over again we began to think that there may be something to what the teachers and others are saying. A reason for why no one wanted to spend time with our daughter, and why she had no friends. And after much thought and deliberation we decided to medicate her for ADHD. Oh gosh, the 4 letter word everyone hates. The one everyone says is just a way for teachers to make something up so the kids can be quiet and pliable.
Haylie has now been on medication for about a month and we couldn’t be any happier. Not only is she still the same little girl, it just seems as if she has had some upgrades. She listens, she sits still for longer than 30 seconds, she isn’t always moving some part of her body, she doesn’t fight with everyone about everything. She has become such a sweet little girl, and now we can see her true personality. She isn’t this mean vindictive child that everyone swore she was. No, she is beautiful. She is artistic, she is happy, she is sweet, she is kind, she is caring. ADHD made her into something she wasn’t, and I am just so happy that we have our daughter in a way that she can be happy and live a normal life. We have learned that she is actually very shy, and that she would rather do things on her own. She doesn’t do well with a lot of people around her, and that’s ok. This is a learning process for us all. We all have a lot of growing to do, and I think as long as we keep up with the great team of people she works with, she will go extremely far in life!
If you are dealing with something similar, just know that it will be ok. Tomorrow is coming. It will be a new day with new options. We don’t always make the right decisions but God gives us enough tries to get it right. So just keep at it and you will do just fine. Find support, and know that there are others out there who may be going through the same things you or your children are.